My signature four-month private transformational engagement
For those who are done losing themselves when love, sex,
and desire raise the stakes.
The Erotic Reclamation
There comes a point when knowing this much and still feeling this lost becomes too expensive.
You know what a boundary is. So why are you still rehearsing one in the shower?
You know attachment styles, but a six-word text still occupies three hours of your life.
You know you're allowed to want things. Right up until what you wants inconveniences someone else.
You are not having the sex you want, or maybe you're avoiding it altogether.
You're here because you know you can't just think your way through this.
Welcome to The Erotic Reclamation.
Coaching to liberate you from that self-abandonment kink. And into someone who doesn't need to earn love by disappearing.
Someone with the kind of self-respect that ignites your eroticism, connects you back to pleasure and desire, and changes what you tolerate, what you ask for, and what becomes possible in love, sex, and the life you're here to live.
You’ve spent so long contorting yourself to keep love close, your body may feel like one big contraction.
Maybe this
sounds like
you?
Relationships generally feel more like eggshells than ease. Your parents probably never used the word “boundary,” but your group chat does. Therapy feels normal, so do fairly emotionally illiterate parents. There might be 17 journals of insight beside your bed.
You know your attachment style well enough to be wondering whether it's responsible for the fact that you've checked your phone 46 times today, or are trying to remember whether they normally put periods at the end of their sentences. You've wondered why being “easygoing” seems to involve doing a number of things you don't actually want to do.
You have a truth but you, but you swallow the sentence, soften the no, succumb to the tightness in your chest just as you speak. You could be checked out during sex, don’t know whether you want to keep going, and you slip into that familiar performance. Your own body feels far away, and pleasure isn't as accessible as you thought.
I suspect you've already had the marriage or the decade-long relationship. And at least one spectacularly painful breakup. You did a tremendous amount of learning afterwards. You figured out your patterns. You learned about attachment and people-pleasing and trauma and boundaries....
And then, horrifyingly, it happens again.
.
Increasingly, you're not asking “What was wrong with them?”
You're asking “How did I end up here, again?”
HERE'S THE TRUTH:
You're lost because you can't hold alignment with yourself.
You don't need another healing journey.
YOU NEED A BACKBONE.
You've been trying to solve this. You don't know what to do next.
I do.
The Erotic Reclamation
The Erotic Reclamation is my four-month private coaching engagement for the gap between the sex and love you have, and the sex and love you desire. We work there.
Because the problem usually isn't that you don't know enough.
It's that somewhere along the way, your body learned that keeping connection sometimes meant overriding yourself. And no amount of being able to explain that teaches your system something different. This program is designed to do exactly that.
Four months (three meetings/month)
Format: Private 1:1 engagement
30-minute Opening Ceremony
12 private 90-minute sessions on Zoom
Detailed Session notes: Included every session.
“Thank you for preserving the insights by taking notes,
they are honestly worth their weight in gold.
I’m going to have the notes printed for my altar.” - ANN C
Custom inter-session assignments for your inner and outer growth - practices, meditations, and accountability.
One inter-session support exchange per week via WhatsApp
(YES your coach on call in the moment you need it!)
Final session of 12 is a 2-hour closing celebration to honour the shit out of you, and resource you to carry the growth forward.
Continued Support: 30 day integration call
What to Expect
The Somatic framework that moves you from the chaos of old patterns to the calm, grounded power of knowing yourself.
I’ll guide you through a proven progression that takes you from overthinking, emotional exhaustion, and disconnect, to clarity, precision, and deep erotic connection.
You'll move through three distinct phases designed to create lasting change.
PHASE ONE:
The Break
We start by unearthing what’s been running your relationships: the habits, beliefs, and system reflexes that keep you over-giving, doubting, or saying yes when your body was screaming no.
You’ll finally understand why it’s been so hard to change.
Awareness becomes relief, resistance eases, power grows.
PHASE TWO:
The Rebuild
We work with what happens in your body when you try something different. This is where the somatic work matters. We build your capacity to stay present through the sensations that normally send you back into the old move.
PHASE THREE:
The Rise
The practice having more of what you actually want. More honesty. More desire. Hot sex. Cleaner boundaries. Bold confidence. Relationships in which you don't to disappear.
Being perfectly healed is BS.
You feel fear, desire, uncertainty, disappointment, arousal, longing—and you stay bigger than it.
The thinking part of you can understand everything that's happening and still not be able to change it. It isn't the one steering your life.
Somatic work truly gets you back into the driver's seat.
My Approach
SOMATIC EMBODIMENT
We work with the soma - mind and body as a whole, including heart, gut, and root. So much of what runs your relationships happens before conscious thought: the contraction before you say what you mean, the impulse to appease, shut down, perform, pursue, or disappear.
Somatic practices bring us into direct contact with these automatic patterns through sensation, movement, energy, and deep intimate presence. Instead of only understanding why you do what you do, we work with the places your body is still in resistance, so new responses become something you can actually access when the stakes are real.
PARTS WORK
Encompassing inner-child healing and concepts from Internal Family Systems, parts work allows us to interact with the different layers of ourselves that are often acting in us unconsciously. By separating ourselves from the 'part' we gain insight into its desire and purpose, and are able to generate compassion for our own system. They say a liberated being is one who is not in conflict with themselves, and parts work helps us achieve this.
BREATHWORK
Breathwork is the process of using the breath to more deeply and directly interact with the nervous system. Different styles can bring either activation, regulation, or balance, and many clients report having psychedelic experiences with breath work. In my coaching style, breath work is used to both release energy patterns cycling through the body, and to deeply integrate the client's transformations and desired emotional states (like safety, love, or belonging), soaking them into every cell.
Parts of us have desires while other parts put on the brakes. These tools bring the system into congruence, so we can actually move.
Coaching is a powerful investment in yourself,
designed to create lasting change and
extraordinary results.
to share your story and needs, and for any questions you have about the program.
if you know you’re ready for radical transformation.